Q&A: Marriage, Motherhood, Positivity, Parenting, Plans This Year

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Shower so I’ve still got my hair’s a bit wet but uh I think we can go outside because it’s so such a lovely day but I’m just uh having some tea by the fire today we’re going to have a chat and thank you for the hundreds of comments

That you left on last week’s video uh with some questions for today’s Q&A okay question from a longtime supporter and enthusiastic follower when you picture your family how many children do you and gido see if that is too personal please disregard thank you again dear how

Polite uh a couple of other people also asked how many children would you like or would you like another child yes greo and I would both love to have another child I suppose it depends if we’re if we’re it seems like gosh we’re so lucky to have one healthy child and uh and

It’s it’s such a a gift so it feels like so much to expect to be able to have another one but if if we could uh that would be incredible and I think it would be really beautiful for JE Franco because having a sibling is just such a

A magnificent experience as you grow up and even as as you as you go through life as an adult I think uh I was breastfeeding so much that I didn’t get my cycle back until this year so we weren’t able to uh and I know some

People have them right away uh after the other one but we we we probably would have done that but we didn’t have that as an option and then I guess uh you know the doctors always say that it’s good to give your body a bit of a rest

Uh but yeah I feel fine and good and I’m just nourishing my body and looking after it with all the things that I did before so again not um having any coffee I haven’t had any coffee since we were trying to conceive je Franco so it’s a

Long time to be without something that I love but uh yeah I just read so much about how uh caffeine uh what it does uh to the to the female body and just how it it it makes makes the body feel like it’s under stress because it’s an

Artificial uh energy and so obviously coffee is not all bad at all it can be very good it’s got anti oxidants and everything but in terms of uh being linked with miscarriage and other things like that um yeah so not that you even asked about that sorry but uh but yeah

I’m just doing a lot of those uh those those things and and and nourishing my body and keeping myself calm and I think that’s the after that you know you see so many people who are doing all the right things and they’re still dealing with infertility or they just don’t

Happen to to to to get lucky I know uh a woman who uh works with us uh here on the property she waited I think it was 15 years 15 years uh she got married when she was very young like 18 and she had to wait 15

Years before having a child and so who knows sometimes there is no Rhyme or Reason so all of this to just to say if we’re lucky to have another child amazing and if if if not uh we’re we’re pretty lucky already with John Franco I have a question if you’re not

In Italy and feeding your Italian hubbies needs what food would you choose to cook and eat I love foods with lots of spices I love Indian I love Moroccan I love to uh just grind up in my mortar and pesel lots of spices and in fact

That’s a way that I uh sometimes make a a tray of roasted vegetables feel a little bit more special like I’ll grind up lots of spices and then just rub them into cauliflower and carrots and and things like this and then uh just roast them uh in the oven and it becomes this

Really wonderful exciting dish and Guido uh he can definitely eat spicy food but he’s not so conversant with a lot of the the the more intense spices let’s say so some cumin seeds ginger powder uh green cardamon Dr Masala some coriander seeds and some fet and Greek seeds and and I

Think I might put also some garlic I might cook it in coconut oil rather than olive oil smells so good look at this hello hello isn’t did lunch time I’ve only just begun oh okay I’ll come back later oh you look nice at this SC I’m just cold and too late to put

Another layer I got lots of questions asking me to speak about motherhood and how I’m handling everything do you know what has helped uh with being a mother and uh navigating all of this uh with my partner Guido uh working out how we relate to each other as as uh as as

Partners and as parents and everything is therapy we uh got therapy before better help contact me about sponsoring this video and better help uh I’m sure many of you are are super familiar with this they have a network of over 30,000 different therapists and so it’s very easy because for so many people

Particularly if you’re a a mother like me you just don’t you don’t have the time to get in and go somewhere and then even then you’d have to go into a big city if you really want a lot of choice uh but with better help they can do and

As a call as a video chat as messaging you can uh if you don’t like the therapist after a bit you can just switch with no additional cost so that’s a great thing because it’s not easy to find a therapist who’s the right fit for

You and uh anyway back to our story so weo and I have started see seeing a therapist uh a couple of months ago uh this is before better help contacted me so it wasn’t through better help but it the experience of doing it online I wasn’t sure about it and then we have

Just found it amazing because the only time that we were free we were both free when we didn’t have work we didn’t have calls uh we didn’t have uh to take care of John Franco was at 9:00 at night so we now have uh these sessions at 9:00 at

Night when we’re both we’re both pretty exhausted uh but it it it is an interesting thing because we uh it started off being like oh no we’ve got therapy and we said we can’t we’re too tired it’s not it’s not that important and then uh surely we can work

It out or surely we can because we were doing it really just to form some good habits and good and work out our communication and and um Guido was dealing with a lot of stress with different personal things and things at work and and we were wondering how to

Navigate that and how I could support uh him through that and uh and also you know just as a preventative measure I think so many people go to therapy when thing they hit rock bottom or if you’re a couple when it’s just like okay you know someone’s

Given an alternatum and said I’m leaving and and we don’t believe in that we sort of thought oh we want to we want to set in place some really good uh a good foundation of communication so that we understand how to how to respect each other and how to parent as well because

It’s a it’s something that needs to be discussed or how we can transition into this new this new role as parents when you’re a parent or sometimes even if you’re you know small business owner and you’re there’s so much you putting out so many fires you’re dealing with so

Much daytoday you haven’t really got time to forecast and and and and look into the future and say hey what what’s the long-term dream or what’s the midterm coping mechanism or something like that and there is so much divorce uh there are so many people who are just

Not in the healthiest State they can be in mentally and and I’m not just talking about parents or or people in marriages here there’s like an epidemic of of of loneliness there’s so many people dealing with depression anxiety is just just Rife all over the world so once it

Starts working for you you you see the benefits and you think why would we not do this why would we not put a a priority on how to love each other and admittedly I’ve got I mean Guido’s really uh beautiful in this sense like he believes in therapy so strongly and

He he listens and and and that’s such a I don’t know know I’m just in in Italy it’s it’s not so common so I’m very grateful that I have a a husband who says I want to hear what you have to say and he you know he’s not just waiting to

Have his rebuttal and say this is this is all the stress that I’m having because that’s the thing I think with parenting is you both of you can say uh or even if you’re a single parent you can think oh I’ve I’ve got so much on my

Plate I’m doing so much there’s nothing I can’t possibly change the way I’m dealing with this because I’m only just hanging on by thread and I understand that believe me um it’s so difficult to believe that anyone especially a stranger even though they’re a professional could help you

When you think they’re not in this they’re not in this with this screaming baby with this work pressures with this you know the I don’t know whatever you dealing with a body that’s that’s that’s recovering uh from the pregnancy even a year later so I understand that it’s

It’s one could be cynical but we have seen such amazing benefits just because uh even even though it’s online you know we’ll even we’ll just have this therapist looking at us through the the screen but she it’s about making time and dedicating time to say hang on take

A breath what’s what are the patterns that are happening here what’s going right and what’s going and what could be uh just just shifted in a different direction with better help I mean they’ve they’ve made it very simple for someone to just say like I don’t I don’t

Have time to get in a car and and go to someone I don’t even know if uh therapy can help me but this is a wonderful way for you to uh move into trying it and seeing if it works they get you to fill out this questionnaire and you tell them

What your preferences are what your beliefs are what kind of therapist would work for you and then they match you in most cases within 48 hours over 4 million people uh have used better he and they have offered my community a 10% discount off the first month so if

You’re interested in trying it uh then just go to the link which is betterhelp.com Kylie and uh you can try out see if it it can help you in in whatever situation you’re in at the start of the year I think is a good time to to try to say

Okay I’m going to do something different I don’t want to end 2024 with that feeling of heaviness again I want to try and see the patterns in in how I’m responding or how I’m dealing with things if it’s relevant to you uh then go and check out betterhelp.com

Kylie if for whatever reason therapy isn’t an option for you right now but you’re feeling very alone maybe watch this video I made on depression anxiety and suicidal ideation it’s like a meditation that I made hoping to be that friend just sitting on your bed and holding your hand through whatever

You’re dealing with and to let you realize that you’re really truly not alone I’ll put a link on screen now dear Kylie do you feel like it’s harder to make new girlfriends after being married with a home and an adorable baby if you hadn’t met Guido

What do you imagine you would have done next have you ever been to Santa Barbara or thereabouts as you’ve been to so many places cheers gra unfortunately I haven’t been to your home of Santa Barbara in the US I’ve spent time for work and pleasure in San Francisco Los Angeles San Diego Dallas

Houston Houston Louisiana Washington New York and Chicago if I hadn’t met uh and married Guido I don’t know what I would have done I guess I may have considered moving to Paris or New York uh these are two cities I really love living in and probably offer more people I would have

Connected with uh for a serious relationship although I don’t know when I speak to my single girlfriends they tend to say that it’s not the case that you can meet more people in a city what what do you think do you think it’s easier to date in a big city or in a

Small uh smaller town or smaller City do you feel like it’s harder to make new friends girlfriends after being married I always feel amazing after speaking with another mother or father and hearing how they’re approaching things differently but often I forget how great it feels because I have so

Many other demands like most people with or without children I have to carefully manage my time between working and allowing quality time with my husband taking care of John Franco looking after my health and sleep spending quality time with my parents and also with Guido’s parents because uh one of the

Other questions someone asked was how is my relationship with uh with them and it’s really wonderful I consider Guido’s mother like a best friend in fact when he goes into the office in Florence I will often spend the whole day with her and confide in her more than I would uh

With a girlfriend of my own age anyway I’ve realized that it is so gratifying to speak with other parents even if I don’t have the closest friendship with them uh it’s just really bonding then again one also needs those deeper friendships and those are harder to find

Or to maintain you have so little time and so if I organize to I don’t know take John Franco out somewhere uh with us and it’s a different place or we sleep over the night at a friend’s place I imagine for most parents I mean if you’re if you’re organizing a babysitter

Or or something like that it’s it’s it’s a lot so you want it to be worth it I’m a bit of an introvert if I go to a party I don’t I can converse with people without a problem I don’t get nervous or anything but I I if you’re this type of

Introvert as well you can find it tiring if it’s not real conversation that you’re being truly yourself and you’re not just sticking at the surfice level because I am so happy just on my own or just in the company of of my my partner and and uh and my son or there’s this

This this worldwide issue of loneliness that is is increasing exponentially not just uh my age group not just teenagers who were born into the world of the social media and all the digital disadvantages uh but also people in their in their 60s and 70s uh even if they’re married if

They’re single it doesn’t matter I mean people are are looking more and more for like-minded soul and they you know I guess a lot of people find them in church but not not necessarily I I I see and I read about just people feeling this challenge of of loneliness and

Making true friends everywhere it’s difficult with women as well because women and it’s not their fault uh but we’re always comparing ourselves probably I would say more than men uh and I think that it it becomes so so hard because women are always looking at everything not just how we look but

Uh oh is this person what stage is their how is their career and is this is have they had to work for it is their career come easy to them or do they have more free time who’s more stressed you may have an image in your head of like two

Women who are uh competitive and envious not necessarily sometimes it’s just that if you’re at a different life stage or if someone has something that the other person would really dearly love or has been working so hard to attain or achieve or or or whatever then it’s it

Can be awkward it can be uh difficult to and maybe you’re not the best person maybe that’s not the right fit for that time in your life and that’s hard because what it means is that as a female you kind of have to find find you don’t have to do this but it

Works easier if you can find someone who more or less has a lot of the the same uh things in their life and I by things I don’t just mean material things sorry I mean also uh they are just emotionally and and psychologically at the same

Stage in their life as you and I I find that when you get that I mean I have a friend thinking of and we can share really openly with each other I don’t know if you do this um but I constantly censor myself uh because I

I Feel It In Other Women I see it and I’ve heard about it from friends I mean I have a friend who is single and she hates the way some uh women who are married will go on and on about different things about uh whatever trying to get pregnant and and this

Friend is saying gosh all I would like is to have a partner and and this person is just going on about trying to get pregnant or or all someone else who has been working for years on their their career and it hasn’t taken off and this other person just started up a a

Business it’s flourishing and this other person who has dedicated their whole life to to to that to the career still hasn’t had that kind of uh that kind of recognition and uh it’s it’s difficult because women is it just women maybe it’s men as well

But um I do feel like women are a little bit more prone to to comparison and it doesn’t mean that they get uh Patty or or mean they can but it’s easier to be yourself uh when you’re sort of with someone who’s more or less at the same stage and

As much as it is obviously better for us to frequent a range of different people and so that you’re not just stuck in a bubble and that’s what I try to do but sometimes I found that it’s it’s hard my mother was saying that she just really thrived having Mother’s groups and she

Said she doesn’t know what she would have done without having a mother’s group that she had back in Australia when she had uh me and my my sister uh but I I haven’t found it here I mean I haven’t because I work full-time it’s just that’s very there’s not work but

That’s not true because you could make time for it if there were a group of really lovely women I would definitely make time for it like I make time for exercise or or spending time with my parents or something like that Angelina asked do you follow someone online where

Do you get your workout routine okay so for the step uh Guido and I have been following this woman who’s called I think it’s puzzle fit and she does a step she does step workouts which are nice and and and hard and but uh for weights like for a full body strength

Postpartum workout uh I found this channel which is called nourish move love and uh yeah I find that her I I hate all the background music I really it really it really irritates me uh but this woman is great and she’s got such a a a a vast uh array of different

Videos and uh and it definitely definitely helps you uh if you’re if you’re postpartum or if you’re just I guess you’re always postpartum aren’t you because after after um having a child yeah if you if you’re there are parts of your body that are just not uh

Ready to to get back into things then there are softer options so she does uh she’ll do a move and then she say if you want a softer version of this this is what it is and actually weo did the post fatum strength body workout and he did the the sof options

And uh and yeah it was it was really really good beautiful video I’m so happy to see someone normal who is not doing some ridiculous exercise nutrition plans and being obsessed with them thank you are you planning to visit Australia to show John Franco how life is over here

And what are your plans for your property are you still possibly planning to rent the cottage for community members uh I would love to show John Franco Australia there was also the question is your family planning to relocate to Italy where should they be based it’s hard because you know they’ve

Got my my sister is in Maya we don’t know whether she’ll be there forever uh I’m here definitely based in Tuscany but uh what’s you know how does that work um they’re here with us on the property now it would be lovely to just have them

Here on the property all the time but obviously that would be selfish on our part because um it’s great for us but uh I want my parents to be able to live wherever they want I’m not sure I think some other people asked about what’s happening with

My parents they don’t know we don’t know uh but uh yeah I’m very lucky to have my my parents here and they are such amazing grandparents both my father and my mother and it’s something that I I don’t ever take for granted I mean I try

To cook for my parents every day to to to to say thank you to them so that then and then we all eat together and it’s a lovely it’s it’s my dream really my dream was always to have a life where my parents could be living with

Me uh maybe not in the same house and but on the same in the same property so they could have their independence and being able to not have to schedule things or not just see each other for holidays but to just say to my parents h

I’ve I’ve made a roast chicken come up for dinner and and they just walk across the the lawn that is so precious to me and I just I’m valuing every every single second every meal every morning that I can Wander over with John Franco and just play in his little house

Outside their their Cottage where they where they’re staying it’s it’s so it’s so meaningful to me and I I sorry that sometimes I feel bad because I know that a lot of people don’t have this option that either their parents aren’t both alive or or they just don’t

Live close by or perhaps they’re not you know the they’re not on the best terms and and so they don’t you know it’s complicated because they may not want a babysit and I I am so aware of that when I was choosing a partner uh some people just go

On looks or the feeling that they have I was always thinking right from early in my 20s thinking I want to choose someone who gets on well with my family and this was really important to me because one of my biggest dreams was to have this type of setup as a mother to

Be able to share obviously yeah you want the help but it’s more than that it’s about being able to witness a child uh growing up and and hitting different milestones and have so uh more people than just your partner uh that that you love to to share that with are you still

Possibly planning to renting the cottage for the community members no I don’t know if you missed it um in in another episode but I explained that just for privacy reasons we’d it could be a really successful Airbnb or something like that and I I would love to to be

Able to you know show you everything we’re doing and then say hey come on over and and be here be here with us but it’s just yeah I I’d rather not uh have our place just be accessible like that on the internet um and having strangers

Sort of come in every week or something uh would be a bit overwhelming uh for me also having a child I know that like 98% of the people in this community are so beautiful and kind and I read your cards and your letters and and I think these people feel like relatives more

Than some online community you feel like a a long lost uncle and Aunt that we might like to to to have a lunch with uh but I I just get a little bit it’s actually it’s not just me also my my parents and Guido I hate to to talk

About this but there are people out there who uh would like to uh do me some harm and having that as a as a as an option uh for some people to come and stay would give me a lot of anxiety uh because I you know it seems like oh are

You being paranoid no I’m not being paranoid um there’s there’s there’s been um some incidents that have given me and have substantiated some of my fears and so uh Guido is like no we just need to rent it out to an Italian who doesn’t know anything about me doesn’t uh you

Know is is just going to rent it out long term and also for Guido he said he doesn’t like I mean changing over the sheets and the cleaning and all the rest of it and dealing with I mean Guido’s mother has nag Turismo and she is so full on she’s always answering questions

People saying how do I get from to the airport how do I get there and what’s around there and can you tell me the restaurants and is there a walk we can do and oh we had to change the dates and can you change this and it’s it’s it’s

It’s a full-time job and neither Guido uh nor I have that kind of time so um we would prefer just to get a long-term tenant uh and uh and we’ve had a lot of people including friends who just said please please can we can we rent that

Out even though it’s not finished yet so uh unfortunately that’s the plan for the ch chicken cou how is your bedroom coming along and is the bathroom finally finished H almost I have been collecting some amazing things fabric for curtains rugs uh lots of different things furniture and I’ve been filming some of

That uh this week and last week and so I will that will be coming in next episode of renovating ruin which will be next week so I cannot wait to show you that for the our master bedroom and bathroom although I tell you what after I I was

Holding off because I didn’t want to have I’ve held off from having a bath because that’s going to be a big event I want it to be like yes everything’s finished uh but a shower we’ve been having the shower uh there after our workout and both of us fit in the shower

Because it’s so lovely and and spacious and it’s just incredible you finish the workout you’re under the shower you’re looking out at the Green Hills and actually we can see deer frolicking in the Hills as from the show show it’s so so beautiful I’m I’m so excited by it

Every I just even my my footprints on the Terra Cotta everything gives me so much joy in this in that bathroom even just now even though we haven’t got anything in there yet except a bath mat um so yeah hopefully we will be close close uh soon to moving in officially to

The bedroom and bathroom we are quite curious to know what Guido does for a living and is he able to work remotely um not completely uh remotely so he goes up every week and spends two days a week in the office and then the rest of the time working remotely uh Guido looks

After his family’s properties which include the olive Groves and The Vineyards um because they produce olive oil and wine and uh then he is also uh he also deals with bankruptcy so he uh deals like with the fiscal side of bankruptcy uh for a lot of different

Clients or he works on with um foreign clients like that castle project that I filmed a few months ago uh with uh foreigners or or who are setting up companies in uh Italy and and looking at all the the the fiscal uh nightmare that is uh running a business initially and

And uh he’s he always he says he gets all these these business people and who come in and say ah I’ve got this in London I’ve got this in New York I’ve got this all over the businesses all over the world and they then come to

Italy and say they’ve never had such a challenge as as in Italy and so uh being bilingual and also uh having an an understanding of the the the Labyrinth of the the fiscal uh uh laws in in Italy uh Guido is uh tries to guide them

Through that process uh it’s not his his you know it’s quite tedious work and he doesn’t love it as much as I love my work and and sometimes I I try to I have to remember to try to empathize with him because it’s a totally different type of

Work I mean he doesn’t wake up and bound out of bed and say oh I can’t wait to just go and look at those spread sheets uh but I also like the fact that it it’s not his whole life and he it then means that he can just switch off and uh and

Spend time with the family and with me and uh sometimes it’s great to do your passion but other times it’s great to do something which is just a job and I feel like these days it’s Al almost become like oh no you have to love what you do

But not necessarily you can be uh competent in what you do but it doesn’t have to be uh your absolute dream because Guido this is at least what he’s expressed to me is that he does his dream stuff uh in his uh in the mornings in the evenings in the in the the

Weekends and and in fact he has a lot of he makes a lot of time to uh live the dolita as some would say I mean it’s a it’s a cliche but uh he does love to stop just work and have a lovely long

Lunch with me out in the garden on a on a Tuesday for example so yeah it’s it’s great that uh he is able to do that why do weo not help when the baby wakes up during the night uh he he does now uh but we have only just gone to uh you

Know it really just weaned John Franco so it was like for a year and a couple of months it was it was just me also because Guido really uh struggles with uh not not sleeping whereas I can so it got to a point where he would be really

Irritable the next day and that would really affect me and and so even though he might have said if I was absolutely exhausted you know I’ll I’ll try and get him to sleep or I’ll I’ll do it and uh but then he would be really grumpy the

Next day so I said to him look I’d prefer to you know every couple has to work out what works for them because every individual is different every baby is different so I know a lot of people might say oh this is what works you know this is what

You’ve got to do and this but no you’ve got to do you’ve got to work out what’s right for the couple and we’re finding our Rhythm our very personal uh Rhythm that works for us and and taking into account greo um sleep patterns and his temperament

And and my uh you know my desire to breastfeed was a huge thing I mean obviously if I had said look I don’t want to breastfeed you know let’s just give him the bottle then Guido would have been up uh sharing that that uh responsibility with me uh for sure uh

But yeah there’s just a lot of different factors and this is what works for us but yeah I have to say that you know we’re just different I I don’t know maybe maybe that’s that’s something that has I’ve been really lucky with is that I I can

Go I can operate a bit more on uh less sleep and uh and I know people are going to say it’s so important sleep yes I know that I’ve read why we sleep I’ve read I you know read so many books on on on sleep and I uh completely endorse the

Uh magical powers of getting enough rest absolutely but you you have to just make the the right choice that’s the right choice for you your child your marriage um and this for me is what works for us and already I can see uh that it is getting so much better because uh he

Guido now is also becoming so much closer to him I struggled a lot and the reason I say this is not to uh not to speak badly of Guido but because I I’m thinking about the mothers who are watching this and are saying I don’t

Want to make them feel like oh I’m all alone I’m the only one who’s who’s struggling no you know this is why I talk about the uh the lack of sleep again and again because if I see a video and someone is cooking and exercising and running around and looking all happy

And they don’t also show that there’s how it’s working or whether it’s taking a toll on them or whether they’re not sleeping or whether their baby is is creating also like Beautiful Moments but then difficult moments I can feel like what’s what am I doing wrong this is so

Why how is it possible and the the fact is it’s not possible and and well it is for some but I guess for most people it’s it’s it’s not it’s a it’s a balance of it’s a it’s a mix of of of of Joyful moments and then a real struggle and so

Yeah it’s hard because if you complain people say oh why are you complaining and if you if you don’t complain and you show just Beauty the people say oh you’re not real but actually uh that those people who complain probably like three people I would say literally three

People and uh and most of you are are just all out there giving me so giving us so much support and it’s really lovely because I know that uh most of you do have children or even grandchildren so I I uh I I I love that you’re encouraging me even though you

Probably have a million thoughts on what we’re doing wrong or what how you would do things differently so I appreciate uh that you’re just here always polite and people saying you people are so respectful and saying oh maybe you should consider uh taking away one of the Naps because I said last episode

That we um John Franco has two naps a day yeah we did do that we did try uh but he it’s at the point where he you know you can see him his eyes closing and everything and and uh my mother always you know just says that uh it’s

So important for for babies to be able to not get over tired and uh and also he does a lot of EX someone else was saying why don’t you let him walk on the walks he is always walking you he’s always moving he go does such like laps of the

Garden like we’ll go and we’ll go and uh do the the orto the the vegetable garden then will walk all the way down to the pig St so he will you know he will walk like a kilometer or something and aside from that then he goes and gets all the

Wood for the fire so he’ll pick up all the really heavy pieces I’m talking like this big and he’ll pick them up and he’ll go and then bring them all wle over with him to the to the fireplace which is a whole different room uh so he

Does a lot of exercise and he you know he does go down to sleep uh fairly well like he was going down so well it’s just that he’s very much like most babies he gets used to a routine and if you change that as we did when you know I weaned

Him and weaning him was also so that I would be able to uh you know get my cycle back so that I could have another child um and this is uh this is yeah just a period of adjustment still I guess um and then I’m I’m certain that

We should be able to get him going down because he goes down really well and then he just wakes up um screaming and and uh and where you know we we read the book The Happy Sleeper we read uh books on on sleep training and we just decided

That that’s not the cried out method or even a gentle sleep training method was not something that we believed was the right fit for us hello lunch time yes if you find the time to answer I would love to hear from you a bit about Florence we are coming

With my parents and a year old daughter for a week in the end of March and we’re looking for tips about parks and places to eat shop spend time with a little child um do you know what probably a better person uh to to uh look to for

Advice would be there’s an Instagram account called girl in Florence and uh she I think she actually has a service where you can pay her to sort of organize your your holiday um or in Italy uh and she she’s American uh but she has a great knowledge of all the

Places to eat and go and she’s also a a mother of a I think a two-year-old maybe um so she would definitely have an idea and she lives now in in Florence she moved away for a little bit and then moved back and and uh I think on her

Website even if you don’t want to pay for that private service you could even just just check out her her website where she has lots of uh ideas on on where to go and what to do dearest Kylie has positivity always been so deeply ingrained in you if so where did it come

From if not how did you develop and build it uh thank you so much uh look I guess I only have my my well I have mainly my family as a point of reference because your family are the ones who truly know your your character within my family uh

I’m definitely known as being very uh positive always looking for the Silver Lining my grandmother was very much people tell me that I’m a lot like my grandmother who is very positive and always hoping and and wishing and looking to the Future in a with a posit

With a with a positive uh approach I suppose uh but I think whether you are naturally positive or cynical or calm or anxious we can all either cultivate or diminish uh that natural side of us and I know that I’m very sensitive to my surroundings and sometimes we associate

The word sensitivity with Frailty you know being allergic being uh you know having some sort of reaction that weakness I suppose uh but sensitivity to someone’s surroundings at least in my experience can also be a great power because it’s a way it’s a very simple formula that I

Know how to uh transform my mood uh or I know that I will be affected uh by the colors and the materials and and you know if there is light coming into a space uh it fills me with a hope and a creativity and I just feel I feel like I

Can uh find the the romance in it and it’s sometimes it can sound like oh there’s a there’s a naivity to to to positivity but I don’t I don’t think that necessarily needs to be the case I know that I can be very pragmatic uh and uh sometimes it’s

Because I know what I need to feel positive that I can make very pragmatic decisions like whether it be a relationship or where I live or what I’m doing you know I will work like crazy in order to to to be able to to create a room for my my

Office or my my bedroom or whatever or where I live you know to to find that apartment that I can rent that that has that light that comes in because I know how that transforms my my mindset when I when I as I move through my day so it’s

Not that you just find yourself in every situation you’re like oh look at the Silver Lining there only there’s only good to see around everywhere I look if you feel that you have orchestrated things I I think that helps uh for example I I mean I’ve spoken about this

Before but you know with my first apartment in Rome that had no windows uh no kitchen it had like a sink but I would have to take a chopping board and sit on my bed chop you know things for to cook with them and and or to to mix a

Cake or whatever um and I you know that’s an example of okay a PL I’ve just told you that like light means so much to me and I chose an apartment had no windows and it was basically a basement in Rome it was my first apartment there

But I thought no I’m going to choose this because it means that I’m in the center in this most beautiful street right in the Cent historic Center and it’s such a beautiful centrally located place and it meant that I could just wake up and go out to the market and go

Out and and and and have my coffee in this beautiful Cafe and or I could go out at night and and just walk home from the the the discoteca and and I think that when something feels like a choice like or you can tell yourself like this

Is uh this is my plan like having a plan for how you want to live helps you see that the decisions you’re making even though you may be in a situation that’s not the most ideal or it’s not your dream apartment it’s not your dream relationship it’s not your dream job but

Uh you are still uh empowered by it because you say no this is this is I’m going to make the best of this because I chose this because this is a stepping stone or I chose this but this there is a way to uh make this beautiful like for

Example in that apartment um the the landlord was so awful I remember there was no electricity and every it all went out and the the toilet wasn’t working and and she just said to me oh well I’m away uh at the beach and I don’t feel

Like coming back to Rome so uh you’ll have to deal with it for a week and I just thought H but uh if you use your creativity for problem solving um that’s the way that I approach positivity so for example I I thought okay well I’m just going to imagine myself as like

Some 1940s or 20s or whatever artist and living in this this dark place but then outside is the Eternal City and and it felt so poetic to me and he thank you for watching I’ve just got John Franco sleeping in the Fram and uh I didn’t get time to answer all the

Questions but I might try to answer some more of them on Instagram so if you follow me on Instagram you can check out my stories and I’ll uh answer some questions there uh thank you as always to my patrons and I shall see you next episode when I have lots of renovation

Updates happening we’ve been doing lots of sh and it’s uh so exciting I can’t wait to show you so I hope I’ll see you next Week