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I related to some things you said. I recently broke up with my bf of 4 years. It wasn’t because he cheated but it was because it felt like I was the only one trying and giving my all. I loved this man so much I thought I was going to marry him. I was ready to fight through everything with him by my side. I was ready for the good and the ugly. With time I noticed that he became an “I don’t know” type of person about everything in life. He wasn’t even trying and when I broke up with him after communicating for so long how I felt, he didn’t even try to fight to stay. Listening to you made me realize that I don’t think he loved himself enough to know who he was and what he wanted. I also felt a weight lifted from my shoulders, because after he left my life I started to notice my worth. I started to notice how beautiful, smart, kind and special I am. So now I understand that I wasn’t supposed to reach my full potential with him by my side and it makes me excited to think that my future soulmate will get to know a version of myself that truly sees how special I am.
I love the set so much! By far my favorite, but I feel like the back wall makes it feel like a split screen. I think creating space between each other could help 🩷
I'm so incredibly proud of you Kristen for being able to be so self aware and trusting in yourself to get to where you are now and that you have the tools to get through this difficult time. <3
I think I've had a similar experience to Kristen because my ex cheated on me as well, but I didn't call him out on it because I didn't have proof and the friend group I was involved with (who was also his primary friend group) wouldn't have believed me. The cheating did happen in front of me and a few other people, but I think they all thought nothing of it so I didn't feel like it was a space where I could speak about it. At the end of our relationship I was so bothered by the break up even though I was waiting for it to happen, but I kept asking him questions about the new girl. One thing he told me was that his "feelings reflected off of how others feel" and that made me think that the connection we had was just an act and the feelings on his end weren't mutual and eventually a lot of other things started to make sense to me. So he was also just lost in who he is and maybe he still is since he's back with that girl.
🎉🎉🎉. McAtee is perfect person for the iteration of different levels of mediums of internet. Is that a sentence. But like she's the internet.
It took me awhile and the big thing is I'm old like how does gen z internet also like and I can't say this concisely like its language. Its so annoying when even professionals mostly men say gossip. Women literally want to talk to each other about their and the future and not just about the three pubs in their crotch and or combination if a boy might text back after date two.
But 🎉🎉❤🎉🎉
Kristen, you’re a badass. He will regret it for the rest of his existence. Love you girls.
Im going through a very recent breakup too, and hearing you guys talk about trusting your body and intuition was kind of eye opening to me. In the weeks before the breakup I was having nightmares and my anxiety was at an all time high. It’s crazy what your body can tell you. Thank you guys for being kind of a healing stepping stone for me <3
RE: dating people outside of your typical type
Every personality trait has 2 sides, like a coin. For example, the personality trait is that they are very social. Tails: great at making you feel welcome and have fun together OR Heads: sometimes is out too much and you would prefer if you guys stayed at home more nights.
If you look for partners with certain personality traits, you may want to consider the “flip side” of that personality trait and what that means to you. Some people might find having a social partner is worth “sacrificing” a few nights at home together. Some people might care a lot and reevaluate what they want in a partner. There’s no real “good” or “bad” people out there (of course there are exceptions), just people.
They will bring you that personality trait everyday (if it’s genuine….),but how you view that trait is completely dependent on the day. And that is valid.
I think what you do, making it about connection, is actually a really beautiful and simple way to put it. Then go from there. You are an amazing person and deserve someone that meets everything you want and more. If connection is at the top of the list, I’d leave it there. You deserve that.
Also fuck that Tanner guy. Cheating isn’t a flip side to any personality, unless the personality is being a dumbass. He’s an idiot.
That’s really funny I teach middle school and when I died my hair red the kids asked me if I was having relationship problems 😂
Kristen, you deserve so much better than someone that cheats on you. Go with your gut instinct as it rarely steers you wrong. By the way, you ARE LOVED….. by ME !!!!
I have an ex who was a pathological liar and I always thought that he was soo good for my anxiety because I'd be SO anxious all the time but whenever I was with him I didn't feel anxious… but that's because when I was with him I knew he wasn't able to be doing any shady stuff lol so really I'd be anxious all the time BECAUSE of him but my brain associated being with him with not being anxious if that makes sense?? So I really tricked myself into thinking he was good for me hahaha
My ex did this and now that I’m over it, I can’t help but pity him. Cowardice.
Man Kristen I feel for you, 💔 I think a New York City bf sounds so fun though especially if he loves New York a lot oof she’s going to have so much fun ahhh
I had a similar experience with my ex, I went out of town for my aunts birthday and until the time I was packing to the drive with my ex dropping me off at the hotel, something in my gut was in so much flutters and was internally preparing for the feeling I was going to feel when I came back home. He was late picking me, he could barely make eye contact with me and when he touched me it gave me chills in such a horrible feeling, he had a previous drug problem when I met him and it was giving me that he relapsed and I was prepared to be there for him and handle the situation, but something was carrying more weight then just that.. once we got home and I stepped in that apartment, our home, higher power, the spirit, my ancestors told me, sis this man cheated on you. I felt so heavy and uncomfortable and I instantly told him to tell me the truth now. And he confessed that he relapsed and cheated.. there is so much to the story on what happened next and 3 years later happily divorced and finally my true self. It was the best thing for me to experience. Always trust your gut, trust your instincts!
Sorry Kristen… You're literally having to grieve a reality that you didn't realise was false 🙁 At least you can feel safe/trust in knowing that if you listen to your body, it will lead you in the right direction ❤ Intuition is such a powerful thing…
I can relate to every single aspect you spoke on – your body signaling something was wrong, you guys being so similar, thinking he could be the one, your partner creating a facade, not knowing what was real and now the struggle to trust and know what could be real in the future. My break up a year ago was exactly like this, he didn’t cheat but the stuff he was hiding from me that eventually came out was devastating. During our entire 4 month relationship I was suffering from the WORST eczema breakout all over my body and my face, but when we went on a break right before we broke up it completely cleared within a couple of days. Your body will absolutely tell you when something is going on, which is beautiful. I have to believe when I am with the right one I’ll know bc my body will know! while it’s hard it’s comforting to know I’m not the only one who has walked through these same feelings, thank you for sharing with us 🫶🏼😌
I really thought you had a milk sponsor until you finally got to that and said it was a light
I ABSOLUTELY ended up with a man that I couldn’t have seen coming. But he is literally the best person I’ve ever met in my life and we are more in love and unison each year after 14 years together…I think going for something new is amazing advice. You just never know. You are so deep and wise and you need a partner who matches that higher frequency so that the vulnerability is reciprocated but on a real level. 💛 Trust that it’s out there. 🙏
can you guys do a video of your top card games you play with friends
I recently heard someone say that women’s intuition comes from a peaceful but certain place that something is not right, jealousy comes from anxiety and past unresolved trauma so it totally makes sense that your gut was “peacefully” warning you something was wrong it was your intuition warning you. Proud of you for knowing your worth and walking away from a messy situation. ✨
It's actually insane that we went through the same thing. Nobody in our friend group expected it at all, the only difference is he didn't admit to it, I found out on my own and he just ghosted me and everyone else after an argument we had one night. It has definitely been the most painful experience of my life and even though I don't have that close of a relationship as you do with your best friend, I'm happy that I at least had our mutual friends that helped me through it otherwise like you said, I would have definitely jumped off the balcony lol